It’s never too early to start disciplining your child, and at 18 months our strong-willed Sophia needs to be contantly reminded that mommy is the boss (grumble… yes, daddy too). Actually, it is a team effort so both parents must work together with patience and persistence. Though I must say Joe spearheaded this operation, and since we’re being honest, at times Sophia doesn’t really take me seriously when I attempt to discipline her. I am working on that and it has gotten better.
Our approach to discipline involves positive reinforcement. I’ve learned that babies much like adults need to be praised when they do good. If they do something wrong ignore it and let it go, otherwise, they may enjoy your reaction and continue this bad behaviour. For example, Sophia watched the episode of “Yo Gabba Gabba” where the lesson was “DON’T bite your friends” and somehow missed a big part of the message (“DON’T”). She would wave her finger at me and say “Don’t bite”, and then continue to bite me which actually wasn’t fun at the time since I am still nursing. Even when I have fair warning it still doesn’t give me enough time to react. At first, I thought it was cute and funny until it continued to happen. I noticed she was just trying to get a reaction out of me. I tried being firm and telling her “No, don’t do that”, which she mimicked ALL the time. My husband reprimanded her and that only made her cry, which doesn’t happen often (I definitely don’t encourage this method). I tried a different and more painful approach. I let her bite me and reminded myself not to react, and she eventually lost interest in biting me.
We found something that seems to work. We reinforce good behaviour by clapping and emphatically saying, “Yes, you did it!” constantly. It goes a little something like this: Sophia accomplishes a task. Joe will praise her by saying “Yes, you did it!”. Sophia smiles ecstatic with arm gestures and all, and repeats “Yes, I did it!” It takes a lot of patience to say “Yes, you did it!” all day with the same enthusiasm each time but the end result is worth it.
I have to applaud my husband for this one. Good job, Joe! You did it! ;P